Dating after death of fiance
The question of whether you can put a timespan on grief is especially pertinent for Michelle Heidstra.
Just four weeks after her husband died, Michelle fell in love with his best friend, Adrian Mc Collin, a pall bearer at the funeral. Their relationship is testament, says Michelle, to just how much she loved her husband, Jon.
Romantic love is a central expression of a good, meaningful, and flourishing life.
Without love and desire, many people feel that a large part of them is dead.
Jon's mother, Val, has been so hurt by her daughter-in-law's behaviour that she has cut off all contact. Yet she is not alone in seeking romance soon after losing her husband.However, I know that he is going through something completely different. He was so upset to see me get upset about the possibility of him not being ready. As we both said, we never expected something like this to happen.We have been extremely open and honest with each other. I guess my question is this: Is it possible that even though he is confused and afraid now, he will want to have a loving, committed relationship with me?Even when expected, the death of a partner is a shocking heartbreak.Weathering the waves of sadness — and building a new life without your mate — may pose the biggest challenge you’ve ever faced. Your partner would want you to be happy again, so banish the notion that you are somehow “betraying” him or her by seeing someone new.